HELP FATHER

The effects of divorce on children can last a lifetime. Kids with divorced parents are kicked back and forth like a football. If your parents love you and get along fairly well with you, then why is their divorce so painful?
The idea of a “good divorce” has great appeal. To some parents, it suggests steps they can take to protect their children if they must end a very bad marriage. A good divorce is better than a bad one, but it still isn’t good. No matter how much love and caring divorced parents devote to a child, that can’t ease the radical restructuring of the child’s world.
When a cell divides, it creates two new cells. Each has its own nucleus. Likewise, divorce splits a family into two new families, each with its own nucleus. In intact families, kids are the nucleus; parents protectively surround them. Divorce turns things inside out: Each parent moves to the centre of his or her own new world; kids are on the outside. For children of divorce, being the one link between the two cells-their parents’ two worlds-is a lonely place to be. Indeed, the one thing that unites these children is that loneliness. They lose their safety and they hesitate to turn to their parents for help.